Susan GrahamSpolied Children
June 11th 2008 01:51
So far today my children went to a party where they played on a huge waterslide for hours, had nothing but junk to eat, went with me to the store where I bought them Hannah Montana comforters for their new bunk beds, and one of them even received a bike from our shopping trip. Then they had lovely McDonald's for dinner. Why do we spoil our children so much?
Is it easier for us to spoil them than to tell them no? Is it easier for us to just give in than to deal with the temper tantrums that might surface? Are we really giving them all that we have because are parents didn't do the same? Are we lazy parents?
I always give advice to all my friends who are expecting, and I tell all my friends that have children "Don't give them too much, or they will be ungrateful!" And I try to listen to my own rules that I give everyone else... but some days it is easier to just make them happy. One of my daughters is ungrateful. I could take her to Disney for the whole day, buy her souvenirs, and ride every ride three times, but when she asks for ice cream at the end of the day and I tell her no, I get the roll of the eyes, the stomp of the feet and the ATTITUDE! Then I get rude. I tell her how ungrateful she is and how the whole day has been all about her. It always seems to end on a bad note. Sometimes I feel like all I do is yell and gripe.
What can we do? Do we just stop cold turkey? Do we just have them go without things that we would like them to have so that they will appreciate what they do have? Will they ever really appreciate us, or will they appreciate us when they are old and gray with their own children?
I also find that I buy them things to keep them busy, such as the bike I bought today. She has outgrown her bike; she really needed a new one. We want our kids out from in front of the T.V. - right? I want to promote a healthy lifestyle. And I also had the issue of her getting picked on by the neighborhood kids as she was peddling her bike with the training wheels around the block. She is almost nine - guilt trip time - I should have already taught her how to ride her bike without training wheels! We should have been doing that on Sunday afternoon instead of watching that baseball game.
And why, oh why did I have to buy new Hannah Montana comforters for their beds, when I already have princess ones that will do? Could it be because her best friend just got her room redone in Hannah Montana and I have to keep up with the Jones? Could it be that when I saw her best friend bragging that I wanted my daughter to have that same right? Could it be that I grew up with the same bedspread my whole life and I was always jealous of my friends who were always stylin?
STOP THE MADDNESS MOM!!!!!! So, let me give all of you advice that I don't follow... birthdays, Christmas, Easter... these are the times for gifts - not just because occasions. We are the drugs that are hurting our children with our lavish spending. We are the cocaine users that sink our bank accounts! If they want it - make them earn it!
I need to get off of here and follow my own advice!
Where were these slides when I was young?
Is it easier for us to spoil them than to tell them no? Is it easier for us to just give in than to deal with the temper tantrums that might surface? Are we really giving them all that we have because are parents didn't do the same? Are we lazy parents?
I always give advice to all my friends who are expecting, and I tell all my friends that have children "Don't give them too much, or they will be ungrateful!" And I try to listen to my own rules that I give everyone else... but some days it is easier to just make them happy. One of my daughters is ungrateful. I could take her to Disney for the whole day, buy her souvenirs, and ride every ride three times, but when she asks for ice cream at the end of the day and I tell her no, I get the roll of the eyes, the stomp of the feet and the ATTITUDE! Then I get rude. I tell her how ungrateful she is and how the whole day has been all about her. It always seems to end on a bad note. Sometimes I feel like all I do is yell and gripe.
Did we do this?
What can we do? Do we just stop cold turkey? Do we just have them go without things that we would like them to have so that they will appreciate what they do have? Will they ever really appreciate us, or will they appreciate us when they are old and gray with their own children?
I also find that I buy them things to keep them busy, such as the bike I bought today. She has outgrown her bike; she really needed a new one. We want our kids out from in front of the T.V. - right? I want to promote a healthy lifestyle. And I also had the issue of her getting picked on by the neighborhood kids as she was peddling her bike with the training wheels around the block. She is almost nine - guilt trip time - I should have already taught her how to ride her bike without training wheels! We should have been doing that on Sunday afternoon instead of watching that baseball game.
And why, oh why did I have to buy new Hannah Montana comforters for their beds, when I already have princess ones that will do? Could it be because her best friend just got her room redone in Hannah Montana and I have to keep up with the Jones? Could it be that when I saw her best friend bragging that I wanted my daughter to have that same right? Could it be that I grew up with the same bedspread my whole life and I was always jealous of my friends who were always stylin?
STOP THE MADDNESS MOM!!!!!! So, let me give all of you advice that I don't follow... birthdays, Christmas, Easter... these are the times for gifts - not just because occasions. We are the drugs that are hurting our children with our lavish spending. We are the cocaine users that sink our bank accounts! If they want it - make them earn it!
I need to get off of here and follow my own advice!
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